Becoming a Relationship Therapist
Since I was a child, I was drawn to psychology and understanding human behavior. Especially family systems with an intense curiosity about how people form their own identities and perspectives within the context of their families and environment. I’m a Southern California native of Muslim immigrant parents from Bangladesh. I have lived in both Bangladesh and the predominantly Christian and Caucasian suburbs of Temecula, California. Experiencing and living in two completely different cultures meant I have done a lot of digging into my own identity, exploring Western vs Eastern values, and trying to figure out who I was in these two very different worlds. My first degree was in Economics/International Studies. After a 10-year corporate career in the defense contracting field as a Contracts specialist, I could no longer deny I was meant to work directly with people in a meaningful and impactful way. I wanted to hear people’s life stories, because they genuinely fascinate me, to help them discover parts of themselves they never knew because self-awareness and acceptance is the first step to growth. I believe in remaining curious over being judgmental. I believe our relationships with others are at the core of the human experience and I am so excited to have the opportunity to help others navigate this dynamic world with each other! Before we entered marriage, my husband and I found it enlightening and beneficial to go through couples therapy ourselves, which allowed us to open up in ways we never thought we could and tackle life together in a positive, loving way - and I hope to create the same environment for you!
I believe in creating a warm, friendly, non-judgmental space where a person can feel comfortable discussing topics they don’t normally get to in their daily lives. I won’t shame, guilt or judge you for anything you share with me. I will help you understand yourself and relationships better by asking the deep questions that I am trained to do, in order to explore complex ideas, get to the truth of things, and to open up issues to help find comfort and balance in your life. I also believe in strength-based therapy, which focuses more on your internal strengths, and less on shortcomings. This positive mindset can help you build on your best qualities and improve resilience.
My Counseling Style and Strengths
I’ve always had a natural, easy-going, trusting presence that allows people to open up to me, even in non-conventional settings. They say I have “good energy”! “I’ve never told anyone this”, is something people have told me my whole life. People can sense my passion in wanting to help others, by the way, I actively listen, communicate and navigate the discussion. I am comfortable being vulnerable with myself, which in turn, welcomes others to be open and vulnerable with me. My open-mindedness about things will put you at ease as you share your world with me. Coming from a diverse upbringing and multicultural marriage myself, I have had to navigate challenging and alternative viewpoints, which means I can view things in multiple perspectives at the same time, ensuring your experiences, values, and views will be heard and nurtured.
Professional Counseling Background
I have experience in working with adults struggling with co-occurring and substance use disorders, with criminal justice involvement in South San Diego. I also have practice in working with children and adolescences and their families experiencing a variety of mental health issues including but not limited to: trauma, depression, anxiety, suicide, self-harm, anger management, school achievement, and communication issues.
Professional Therapist Credentials and Training
- Masters of Science in Counseling – Marriage, Family & Child Therapy
- Gottman Method Training
- TF-CBT (Trauma informed care)
- DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy)
- Substance Use Disorders
- Motivational Interviewing
- Cultural Competency