Mon-Fri 9-8 | Sat-Sun 9-5

(619) 535-8890

Jeffrey Young, MA, LMFT

Licenses: California: LMFT #100683 | Texas: LMFT #205809 Jeffrey is an experienced educator, supervisor, and therapist. He is trained in Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, working with couples and individuals. Jeffrey is the founder of THRIVEWAYS and Building Brotherhood, a program dedicated to improving Men's Mental Wellness. For a decade, he served as a group leader with Men's Center Los Angeles.

couple ritual of connection

Seeing Your Partner Clearly: Appreciation, Gratitude, and Connection

Couples Counseling, Growth /

One of the quiet truths I have learned through years of clinical work and lived relationship is that intimacy does not erode primarily through conflict. It erodes through invisibility. We stop being seen in the fullness of who we are. We are noticed for what we forgot, what we did not do, what fell short. Over time, the mirror our partner holds up becomes distorted, reflecting only our missteps instead of our character. Appreciations are […]

Seeing Your Partner Clearly: Appreciation, Gratitude, and Connection Read More »

Author: <span>Jeffrey Young, MA, LMFT</span>

Values vs. Goals: The New Year Reset That Actually Sticks

Men's Mental Health /

An ACT-informed reflection on living with direction, not pressure (and why this is men’s mental health work) January has a particular kind of energy. It is hopeful, yes, but it is also loud. Everywhere you look, the message is some version of: optimize, grind, fix yourself, get serious, get ahead. For a lot of men, that message lands in a familiar place: pressure in the chest, a spike of self-criticism, and an urge to “solve

Values vs. Goals: The New Year Reset That Actually Sticks Read More »

Guys, Gratitude, and Gottman

Guys, Gratitude, and Gottman

Men's Mental Health /

How Men Can Lead with Presence, Appreciation, and Attunement There is something quietly revolutionary about a man who chooses to show up. Not with grand gestures or perfection, but with presence. With curiosity. With the simple daily choice to notice his partner, care about her world, and take responsibility for his part in their connection. When men lean into that version of themselves, something profound happens. Their partner softens. Their home becomes safer. Emotional intimacy

Guys, Gratitude, and Gottman Read More »

attuned couple

How Presence Turns Conflict into Connection

Couples Counseling, Relationship /

“Presence is the opposite of stonewalling, defensiveness, and zoning out. It’s choosing to feel instead of flee, to listen instead of argue, to reach instead of retreat.” The Vanishing Act Every couple knows this moment. You’re mid-conversation—maybe about finances, parenting, or something as small as leaving dishes in the sink—and suddenly, one of you disappears. Not physically, but emotionally. Eyes glaze over. Shoulders tense. One partner retreats into silence while the other presses harder, desperate

How Presence Turns Conflict into Connection Read More »

Author: <span>Jeffrey Young, MA, LMFT</span>

Why Can’t You Be More Selfish?

Relationship, Self-Esteem, Thoughts /

Drs. John and Julie Gottman remark, throughout their work on relationships, that “everyone is a philosopher,” since our choices and actions are informed by our deeply held beliefs and values. In this series of essays, I call upon the dear reader to challenge their philosophical perspective, to check their premises. Let’s consider ourselves and our partners in a new light and see what we might discover. Not an attempt to persuade — rather an invitation

Why Can’t You Be More Selfish? Read More »

Couple growing together

Why A Growth Mindset Matters in Love and Life

Growth, Relationship /

Introduction: Why Mindset Matters in Relationships If you’re in a partnered relationship, chances are you’ve experienced the highs of deep connection as well as the lows of conflict, disconnection, or even feeling stuck. What separates couples who thrive from those who get trapped in cycles of misunderstanding and resentment? One often overlooked factor is mindset. Carol Dweck’s pioneering research on growth versus static (often called “fixed”) mindset offers a powerful lens for understanding not only

Why A Growth Mindset Matters in Love and Life Read More »

Author: <span>Jeffrey Young, MA, LMFT</span>

Small Group, Big Change: How a Weekly Men’s Group Can Transform Your Mental Health, Relationships, and Life

Men's Mental Health /

Introduction: What Happens When Men Stop Going It Alone You don’t have to carry it all by yourself. That sounds simple—but for many men, it’s revolutionary. When was the last time you spoke openly about what really matters—your stress, your relationships, your energy, your sense of self—with a group of other men who genuinely listened and supported you? Most of us haven’t had that space since childhood, if ever. And yet, the need for connection,

Small Group, Big Change: How a Weekly Men’s Group Can Transform Your Mental Health, Relationships, and Life Read More »

Author: <span>Jeffrey Young, MA, LMFT</span>

Introducing THRIVEWAYS: Find Your Path to Men’s Mental Wellness

Men's Mental Health /

Men’s Mental Wellness: Why It Matters Now More Than Ever In recent years, the importance of mental health has taken center stage, yet men’s mental health often remains in the shadows due to persistent stigmas and societal expectations. The reality is undeniable: men face significant mental health challenges that, if left unaddressed, can lead to devastating consequences for individuals, families, and communities. These same challenges represent a landmark opportunity for personal growth and thriving. Statistics

Introducing THRIVEWAYS: Find Your Path to Men’s Mental Wellness Read More »

Scroll to Top