Own Who You Are and What You Want in a Relationship If you really want to be in a serious relationship, why pretend you don’t to appease someone else? It’s okay to make that known. Pretending to be interested in only casually dating or portraying yourself as someone who is willing to hook up without a commitment when that isn’t who you are is not going to serve you in relationships. You send mixed messages to both the new partner and yourself by accepting less than you want. The right person for you will find it refreshing and attractive that you are willing to own who you are, and state your expectations about what you are looking for regardless of whether or not the other person agrees or validates you. If you want to learn the tools about how to ask for your needs in relationships, we can help. Schedule your consultation today! We’re here to help.
Dana was recently interviewed by Sarah Crow for an article in BestLife in which she provided tips to help sustain a healthy marriage. Having made it through the stress of the holidays, the advice provided in this article is timely for those looking to strengthen their relationships moving into the new year. One of the tips in the article was to “tell your partner what you need without being critical.” When one spouse says, “Is there a way you could stop leaving your socks on the floor?” all too often, their partner hears it as a personal slight. Instead, try to make those needs known without criticizing your partner. “If we can find a way to talk about our partner’s behaviors and how those behaviors impact the way we feel, then it is much easier for our partner to hear,” says Dana McNeil, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in San Diego. In doing so, you’re more likely to receive a response that’s rooted in empathy, rather than defensiveness. If you would like to have more tools to help strengthen your relationship, schedule a consultation today. Even if you believe your relationship is great, you can still benefit from a relationship checkup. You can read the full article here.
Dana was recently interviewed by Beau Henderson for an article in Authority Magazine about optimizing wellness after retirement. One big takeaway: Invest Time and Energy into Your Relationships. One of the biggest determinations of successful aging is actively engaging in supportive emotional relationships. Read the whole article here.
Ladders magazine, a leading professional career site and publication, recently asked Dana to share her tips for trying to hold onto your sanity and manage work/life balance during the holidays. Keeping time zones in mind and carving out time for yourself are just two of the items on her list. Read the full article by clicking here.
Now that you are a married couple, how do you decide what to do for the holidays? Do you prepare for stress with traveling from house to house, trying to fit in visiting every family member from both sides? As the resident relationship expert on the I Do The Ultimate Wedding Show, Dana tackles this question head on, giving you permission to create your own holiday tradition. Check your local Cox Communications TV channel for this fun new show from YurView ! It runs Sundays at 5pm, Mondays at 9pm, Thursdays at 6pm, and Saturdays at 7pm. Click below to watch her excerpt:
Whether you’re in a serious relationship or still living the single life as you turn the corner to 30 (or beyond), there are some reasons relationship experts say getting married in your 30s is a good thing. According to a 2019 Pew Research Center report, marriage in America looks quite different now then it did in the past. Divorce is down and the average age of first marriage is up. Our founder Dana recently was published in Wedding Wire talking about the benefits of waiting to get married until you’ve left your 20s behind. Read the entire article here.
You health is an important element of your life, and having someone you can trust to talk to about it is a vital part of your support network. However, there are some things you should never say in public, lest everyone in the general public know your private matters. Dana was recently asked for her thoughts on what not to discuss in public about your health for this piece in Eat This Not That: