According to the National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS). 1.68 million people got married in 2020. In that same year, 630 000 filed for divorce and annulments. These figures are down from previous years due to the pandemic, but they reveal something interesting about the nature of long term marriages and gray divorce. Divorce is a trying and turbulent time for every couple that goes through it. The effects can feel even sharper for couples …

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How would you define self-care? (Trying to explain how it’s not so much about baths and pedicures as it is about caring for yourself as a human and prioritizing your mental/physical/emotional needs.) Anyone who is in a relationship in which you seek to be able to take care of the needs of others requires that you invest as much time and energy into your own care as you give to the people you love. Self-care is …

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Fall/winter is usually pretty low energy in general, and although we know socializing is good for us, it can be tougher to self-motivate to get together with friends. Is it normal to feel like you have less energy to give to your platonic relationships when the days are shorter/darker, and why? During fall and winter, most of us settle into a “wintering” or nesting frame of mind, spirit, and body. For some people, the production …

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Working through issues together is a healthy sign in a relationship, but what happens when there isn’t a tidy solution? While navigating conflict is a normal part of being in a relationship, some problems are unsolvable. This begs the question: how should you deal with a problem you can’t fix? Well, it helps to know how common this actually is. According to Dr. John Gottman, unsolvable relationship problems can make up two-thirds of a couple’s …

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Co-dependency is a behavior that is often developed in childhood as a response to growing up with caregivers who were inconsistent with their attention or support. When children don’t have consistent parental behaviors that can be relied on or feel conditional, they often develop coping skills that place the needs of the adults above the child. Children develop these responses in order to survive childhood and as a way of trying to keep in their …

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