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The Many Ways to Thrive: What Thriveways Has Always Meant

Growth, Thoughts /

I celebrate myself, and sing myself, / And what I assume you shall assume, / For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you. — Walt Whitman, Song of Myself A word worth pausing on Thrive is one of the rare verbs in English with no clean synonym. Flourish comes closest, but feels botanical. Succeed is too narrow — it measures outcomes rather than aliveness. Grow is too vague, and prosper belongs to […]

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Becoming a Mom Again in Your 40s: What Feels Different (and Why That Can Be a Good Thing)

As Seen In, New Mother, Parenting /

Featured in Good Housekeeping: “Here’s What’s Great About Becoming a Mom in Your 40s” 5/10/26   There’s a lot of conversation right now about women becoming mothers later in life. Many are curious about the experiences and challenges of becoming a mom in your 40s. And while the focus is often on what might feel harder—energy, timing, or starting again—what I see in my work tells a more nuanced story about motherhood at 40. Because

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Family Therapy with Adult Children: Breaking Intergenerational Patterns That Have Been Building for Years

Family Therapy, Parenting /

Family therapy is changing. More and more, families are reaching out—not for young children, but for older teens and adult children, often after years of unaddressed patterns.   These are not new issues. They are long-standing dynamics—communication patterns, misunderstandings, and emotional distances that have built quietly over time. And at a certain point, many families begin to ask:   “We can’t keep doing this… so what do we do now?”   Why Families Seek Family

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The Strength to Be Moved: Accepting Influence

Men's Mental Health, Relationship /

“Do I contradict myself? Very well then I contradict myself, (I am large, I contain multitudes.)” — Walt Whitman, Song of Myself The mistaken equation There is a belief, held quietly by many men and loudly by some, that to be moved by another person is to be weakened by them. That to change your position is to lose it. That accepting your partner’s influence means surrendering your principles, your logic, your integrity. That the

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The Threshold: What Illness Reveals About Identity

Growth, Thoughts /

On illness, liminality, and the self you meet when the ordinary world stops There is a moment — if you are lucky enough, or unlucky enough, to have it — when the ordinary world simply stops. Mine arrived in an urgent care room on an unremarkable afternoon. The attending physician looked up from her chart and said, with the calm authority of someone who has delivered this particular sentence many times before: “I’m admitting you

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Thinking About a Couples Therapy Intensive? Not All Are Created Equal!

Couples Counseling /

Over the past few years, couples therapy intensives have become increasingly popular — including here in San Diego and throughout Southern California. What was once considered a specialized format is now widely marketed as a faster way to create change. I recently saw a San Diego therapist referral group where someone asked a simple question: “Does anyone offer couples intensives?” Within hours, there were more than two dozen responses. What struck me wasn’t the number

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What Is Relationship Cringe? Why Caring About Your Partner Can Feel Embarrassing

Dating, Relationship /

What is “relationship cringe”? For some of my clients, relationship cringe is that uneasy feeling when you catch yourself caring deeply about your partner and suddenly worry that being sincere about it looks uncool. It’s the internal wince when you post something affectionate or admit you’re happy in love, then immediately second-guess it. It’s essentially shame wrapped around vulnerability. In a culture that rewards irony, detachment, and emotional control, openly valuing your relationship can feel

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Is an Emotional Affair Cheating? Signs and What to Do Next

Affairs/Infidelity, Couples Counseling /

An emotional affair can feel confusing — especially because it often doesn’t start as an affair. It starts as a friendship. And in many cases, it starts at work. A coworker who “just gets you.” A conversation that feels easy. A person who listens. A text thread that becomes the highlight of your day. And then one day, you realize something has shifted. You’re not just talking. You’re emotionally leaning. And sometimes… you’re starting to

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Valentine’s Day Date Ideas in San Diego: What Actually Feels Romantic?

Dating, Relationship /

What actually makes a Valentine’s Day date feel romantic? Is it the restaurant reservation? The perfect view? The pressure to “get it right”? Most couples don’t feel closer because of what they did—they feel closer because of how they felt while doing it. Relationship research shows that when couples share new experiences, the brain releases dopamine and other bonding hormones. That shared emotional “lift” creates connection. You’re not just having fun—you’re building a positive emotional

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Military Infidelity: When an Affair Can Become a Career Ender

Affairs/Infidelity, Couples Counseling /

Infidelity is painful in any relationship. But in the military, it can carry a different kind of weight — because betrayal doesn’t just threaten the marriage. It can threaten a career, a clearance, a reputation, and in some cases, an entire future. And that reality creates a unique problem: many couples feel trapped between wanting help and being terrified of what help could cost them. If you’re reading this and thinking, “This is exactly our

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