So you stumbled your way
Into polyamory...
Statistically speaking, you were most likely raised to fit into the prescriptive norms of a primarily monogamous society...
Go to school, get a job, date (one) partner, get married, have kids. An entire life laid ahead of you before you were old enough to walk. Defaulting to monogamy is simply par for the course.
But I'm preaching to the choir... aren't I?
Whether you're already in an open relationship or if you're contemplating such a move, whatever your personal buttons are, polyamory will (or has) definitely push them. Eradicating insecurity and jealousy is challenging even if all parties involved are on board.
There are times when it’s hard and scary, and times when it’s exhilarating and life-giving. It can take some time to figure out how — or even if — polyamory works best in your life.
impossible at it may seem...
ANYONE IS CAPABLE OF
TRANSFORMING THEIR RELATIONSHIP
Relationship/s Of Your Dreams
It's about honesty, trust, communication, compassion, integrity...
All great tenets to have in any healthy relationship
You needn't go too far to find stories riddled with pain, heartache, jealousy and insecurity in the poly community.
Most people have enough difficulty with one relationship at a time. Now imagine two or more. Being in a polyamorous relationship substantially magnifies the garden variety issues so common in monogamous relationships.
Whether you identify as polyamorous or monogamous, dominant or egalitarian, in a triad or a Vee, a top or a bottom, a dominant or a submissive, relationships don't work unless you practice self-care and relationship hygiene.
If you aren't already capable of knowing who you are, what your emotional baggage is and how to love and accept yourself, it's unlikely that your relationships of any kind will be healthy, happy and free of drama.
Here are just some of the issues we work on in therapy:
Together we'll work on giving you a solid, ethical, framework and common language to convey your boundaries, needs, and feelings to your partner/s effectively.
BUT ONLY YOU CAN TAKE IT!
here's a simple guide to help you navigate them...
There are different types of non-monogamy, here's a simple guide to help you navigate them:
Generally regarded as an umbrella term that includes polyamory, open relationships, swinging, solo poly, relationship anarchy, and poly-fi relationships. The use of the term is like how queer is the umbrella term that covers gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, etc.
Sometimes it is called “consensual” or “responsible” non-monogamy.
Relationships where the participants are free to take new partners.
Typically, solely sexual (not emotional friends with benefits.)
More casual additional partners outside an established, primary relationship.
Hundred Mile Rule: is an agreement permitting sexual liaisons with people outside a partnership or marriage if they take place far from home. Some married long-haul truckers and military service personnel, for instance, have rules that say it’s ok to have sex with other people while you’re out on the road or on deployment.
Practice of having multiple spouses.
More gender normative and heterosexual normative.
Usually tied to religion.
Form of open relationship/social sex activity in which partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others at the same time.
Swingers who engage in casual sex maintain that sex among swingers is often franker and more deliberate which they interpret as more honest than infidelity.
Parties and clubs are attended with the main couple who introduce other people into their sexual act or perform with their main partner present.
*This type of situation is not considered an open relationship by the partners and outside romantic relationships are generally not considered acceptable.
Multiple romantic relationships at the same time with knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
People in ploy relationships tend to view their relationships equally rather than assign labels like “primary” and “secondary”. BUT NOT ALWAYS.
These relationships may or may not include sex. These relationships are not defined by sex but are interested in pursuing multiple loving relationships.
MOVE FORWARD?
Our therapists can help improve the quality of your relationship.
