Counseling for Polyamorous and Open Relationships

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So you stumbled your way
Into polyamory...

Statistically speaking, you were most likely raised to fit into the prescriptive norms of a primarily monogamous society...

Go to school, get a job, date (one) partner, get married, have kids. An entire life laid ahead of you before you were old enough to walk. Defaulting to monogamy is simply par for the course.

But I'm preaching to the choir... aren't I?

Whether you're already in an open relationship or if you're contemplating such a move, whatever your personal buttons are, polyamory will (or has) definitely push them. Eradicating insecurity and jealousy is challenging even if all parties involved are on board.

There are times when it’s hard and scary, and times when it’s exhilarating and life-giving. It can take some time to figure out how — or even if — polyamory works best in your life.

impossible at it may seem...


It’s Not Just About Boundaries, Insecurities and Jealousy…
It’s About Creating The
Relationship/s Of Your Dreams

It's about honesty, trust, communication, compassion, integrity...
All great tenets to have in any healthy relationship

You needn't go too far to find stories riddled with pain, heartache, jealousy and insecurity in the poly community.

Most people have enough difficulty with one relationship at a time. Now imagine two or more. Being in a polyamorous relationship substantially magnifies the garden variety issues so common in monogamous relationships.

Whether you identify as polyamorous or monogamous, dominant or egalitarian, in a triad or a Vee, a top or a bottom, a dominant or a submissive, relationships don't work unless you practice self-care and relationship hygiene.

If you aren't already capable of knowing who you are, what your emotional baggage is and how to love and accept yourself, it's unlikely that your relationships of any kind will be healthy, happy and free of drama.

Here are just some of the issues we work on in therapy:

How will we as a couple...

create a safe space for open communication about the relationship and the needs/desires of each partner?

How do we handle it when...

one partner wants to enter into these kinds of relationships and the other doesn’t?


do we set
healthy boundaries
as a couple?

How do we learn to...

talk about our needs in ways that don’t create defensiveness or comparison in our partner?

How do we handle conflicts...

that arise around these kinds of relationships and is there potential for compromise between partners?

How do we...

handle jealousy?

What is the difference...

between consent in participation
shaming or intimidation?

Together we'll work on giving you a solid, ethical, framework and common language to convey your boundaries, needs, and feelings to your partner/s effectively.

Don’t wait or be afraid to ask for help!
Schedule your FREE 15 minute consultation today.
Let’s begin the journey to a happier, healthier partnership.
There are different attachment styles,
here's a simple guide to help you navigate them...

There are different types of non-monogamy, here's a simple guide to help you navigate them:

Ethical Non-Monogamy

Generally regarded as an umbrella term that includes polyamory, open relationships, swinging, solo poly, relationship anarchy, and poly-fi relationships. The use of the term is like how queer is the umbrella term that covers gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, etc.

Sometimes it is called “consensual” or “responsible” non-monogamy.

Open Relationships

Relationships where the participants are free to take new partners.
Typically, solely sexual (not emotional friends with benefits.)

More casual additional partners outside an established, primary relationship.

Hundred Mile Rule: is an agreement permitting sexual liaisons with people outside a partnership or marriage if they take place far from home. Some married long-haul truckers and military service personnel, for instance, have rules that say it’s ok to have sex with other people while you’re out on the road or on deployment.


Practice of having multiple spouses.
More gender normative and heterosexual normative.
Usually tied to religion.

Swinging (Being in the Lifestyle)

Form of open relationship/social sex activity in which partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others at the same time.

Swingers who engage in casual sex maintain that sex among swingers is often franker and more deliberate which they interpret as more honest than infidelity.

Parties and clubs are attended with the main couple who introduce other people into their sexual act or perform with their main partner present.

*This type of situation is not considered an open relationship by the partners and outside romantic relationships are generally not considered acceptable.

Polyamory- (POLY) Poly-Love/Mory-Many

Multiple romantic relationships at the same time with knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

People in ploy relationships tend to view their relationships equally rather than assign labels like “primary” and “secondary”. BUT NOT ALWAYS.

These relationships may or may not include sex. These relationships are not defined by sex but are interested in pursuing multiple loving relationships.


In healthy relationships, conflict, whether explicit or underneath the surface, is NORMAL

You’re not a clone of your partner, nor would you want to be. You have your own thoughts, values, and expectations.

These differences create the perfect circumstances for a storm to brew that will eventually lead to conflict.

Successful relationships are not based on how similar you are to your partner. Instead, success is determined by how well you manage your differences.

It’s not your fault that you’re having problems in your relationships – AND there is nothing wrong with you.

Effective communication skills were likely not taught or modeled for you when growing up, so you have to learn them just like most of us.

Everyone wants to be loved, and that’s why you’re here. You’re brave to seek out therapy so you can discover how to love and be loved better.

The key to solving your problems is to deepen your connection with one another and to find healthy ways of resolving your differences.

Conveniently Located At 2729 Fourth Avenue in San Diego
Without strong foundations, couples will always struggle.
Our therapists can help improve the quality of your relationship.

Make Today the Day!

It all starts with a free personalized phone consultation.

Take the first step. Feel better!

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