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Jeffrey Young, MA, LMFT

Jeffrey is an experienced educator, supervisor, and therapist. He is trained in Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, working with couples and individuals. Jeffrey is the founder of THRIVEWAYS and Building Brotherhood, a program dedicated to improving Men's Mental Wellness. For a decade, he served as a group leader with Men's Center Los Angeles.

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How Presence Turns Conflict into Connection

Couples Counseling, Relationship /

“Presence is the opposite of stonewalling, defensiveness, and zoning out. It’s choosing to feel instead of flee, to listen instead of argue, to reach instead of retreat.” The Vanishing Act Every couple knows this moment. You’re mid-conversation—maybe about finances, parenting, or something as small as leaving dishes in the sink—and suddenly, one of you disappears. Not physically, but emotionally. Eyes glaze over. Shoulders tense. One partner retreats into silence while the other presses harder, desperate […]

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Why Can’t You Be More Selfish?

Relationship, Self-Esteem, Thoughts /

Drs. John and Julie Gottman remark, throughout their work on relationships, that “everyone is a philosopher,” since our choices and actions are informed by our deeply held beliefs and values. In this series of essays, I call upon the dear reader to challenge their philosophical perspective, to check their premises. Let’s consider ourselves and our partners in a new light and see what we might discover. Not an attempt to persuade — rather an invitation

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Why A Growth Mindset Matters in Love and Life

Growth, Relationship /

Introduction: Why Mindset Matters in Relationships If you’re in a partnered relationship, chances are you’ve experienced the highs of deep connection as well as the lows of conflict, disconnection, or even feeling stuck. What separates couples who thrive from those who get trapped in cycles of misunderstanding and resentment? One often overlooked factor is mindset. Carol Dweck’s pioneering research on growth versus static (often called “fixed”) mindset offers a powerful lens for understanding not only

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Small Group, Big Change: How a Weekly Men’s Group Can Transform Your Mental Health, Relationships, and Life

Men's Mental Health /

Introduction: What Happens When Men Stop Going It Alone You don’t have to carry it all by yourself. That sounds simple—but for many men, it’s revolutionary. When was the last time you spoke openly about what really matters—your stress, your relationships, your energy, your sense of self—with a group of other men who genuinely listened and supported you? Most of us haven’t had that space since childhood, if ever. And yet, the need for connection,

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Introducing THRIVEWAYS: Find Your Path to Men’s Mental Wellness

Men's Mental Health /

Men’s Mental Wellness: Why It Matters Now More Than Ever In recent years, the importance of mental health has taken center stage, yet men’s mental health often remains in the shadows due to persistent stigmas and societal expectations. The reality is undeniable: men face significant mental health challenges that, if left unaddressed, can lead to devastating consequences for individuals, families, and communities. These same challenges represent a landmark opportunity for personal growth and thriving. Statistics

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