Pistanthrophobia is the fear of trusting others and is often the result of experiencing a serious disappointment or painful ending to a prior relationship. As a result of the trauma, the person with this phobia possesses a fear of getting hurt again and avoids being in another relationship as a way to guard against future similar painful experiences. When this happens, you’re unable to have a future relationship that may help you gain perspective or understanding as to why the prior relationship may not have been a good fit to begin with.
Let’s talk about conflicts in Relationships:
Though many of you may already know, it’s worth mentioning that I love my job as the relationship expert behind TV’s “I Do”. In our “Ask the Expert” series, I was recently asked, “Is it normal for us to have conflicts even though our relationship is new?”
Fun Dates for Valentine’s Day Keeping the romance alive is vital for healthy relationships. Valentine’s Day provides a great opportunity to engage in some much needed together time. Need some creative date ideas for the special day? Here are our picks to consider: Rent a cabin in the mountains. Think cuddling up by the fire with a hot beverage or sitting in a hot tub stargazing. No distractions, no city noises, no cell phone service to interrupt the quiet solitude. Drive In Movie When was the last time you packed up the car and headed somewhere to watch a movie outside? Pack up the back of pick up truck with lawn chairs, blankets, and snacks for a double feature. Reading to Each Other If you love the sound of your partner’ voice, what better way to spend an evening than reading each other a favorite poem? It’s time to hit the books. Take a Hike Exploring nature reduces stress and enhances calmness. Walking and being present with the elements releases serotonin and oxytocin, which are the feel-good hormones. The release of these will create a feeling of shared experience and a sense of closeness. Catch a Train Spending time on a train is a relaxing way to travel while taking in the sights and sounds of new scenery. The adventure created together allows for an expanded sense of connected curiosity and wonder. Tried an Escape Room? Partners come together to work on problem solving skills and mutual goals. These puzzles …
Congratulations! You’re in a long term, committed, happy relationship. What’s your secret? People tend to think that the longer the relationship, the easier it gets. You finish each others’ sentences, you know your partner better than you know yourself, your communication is flawless, you have it down! Not quite… With time comes routine, predictability, boredom. The most common question I get from clients in long-term relationships summarizes it perfectly “Between kids, housework, chores and work, how do I keep the flame alive?” Indeed… What about the spice? I answered this exact question in my interview with QSalt Lake Magazine, read the full article on a fine romance, here.