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Find something you can validate in what the other person is saying and receive their perspective like someone that you love and respect. Why is it so important that your partner feels exactly the same way as you do???? “It’s ok and expected that couples will not agree and that conflict will occur. Not just on politics but on likely many aspects of their relationship. CONFLICT IS NORMAL! People can have the same political view …
How would you define self-care? (Trying to explain how it’s not so much about baths and pedicures as it is about caring for yourself as a human and prioritizing your mental/physical/emotional needs.) Anyone who is in a relationship in which you seek to be able to take care of the needs of others requires that you invest as much time and energy into your own care as you give to the people you love. Self-care is …
Fall/winter is usually pretty low energy in general, and although we know socializing is good for us, it can be tougher to self-motivate to get together with friends. Is it normal to feel like you have less energy to give to your platonic relationships when the days are shorter/darker, and why? During fall and winter, most of us settle into a “wintering” or nesting frame of mind, spirit, and body. For some people, the production …
Co-dependency is a behavior that is often developed in childhood as a response to growing up with caregivers who were inconsistent with their attention or support. When children don’t have consistent parental behaviors that can be relied on or feel conditional, they often develop coping skills that place the needs of the adults above the child. Children develop these responses in order to survive childhood and as a way of trying to keep in their …
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Dr. Dana McNeil, the Founder of The Relationship Place, answers the question, “Can I do the Gottman Method on my own?” While it is possible to get the book and do the Gottman Method yourself, it can be difficult to stick with it. Having a therapist or counselor who can guide you on how to put it into practice, explain the reality of it, and show what it looks like in real life will benefit …
Dana McNeil, the Founder of The Relationship Place, explains why you should look for a couple’s therapist instead of an individual therapist. Somebody who is a couple’s therapist has different tools and approaches than somebody who is an individual therapist. Therapists for individuals support you, mirror back what you’re feeling, and ultimately help you figure out the answer you’ve had all along. Somebody who is a couple’s therapist is trained to be a neutral party. …
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Dr. Dana McNeil, the Founder of The Relationship Place, answers the question, “What do I do if my spouse is a narcissist?” If your partner is a narcissist, they won’t go to therapy because they truly believe they are perfect. Narcissism is a personality disorder that has been with somebody their whole life. If they are willing to change that behavior, therapy can be a great help. It is important, before labeling your partner, to …
Acceptance Emotionally healthy children grow up with the need to develop their internal sense of self and should learn to develop autonomy with parents who are emotionally available enough to foster these traits in a warm and supportive environment. Unfortunately, not all parents are equipped to help their children learn to develop those skills for themselves, especially if the parent possess a personality disorder such as narcissism. Some parents with narcissistic personality disorder can miss …
What are Pheromones? Think of pheromones as operating in a way similar to the way hormones work, except that they work outside of the body versus internally. Pheromones facilitate biological functions through smell and can help generate more pep in the step of the receiver’s sexual drive. One of the most powerful functions of a pheromone is its ability to ensure that the human race and the animal kingdom remain alive and kicking. Pheromones act …
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This piece was originally published on Gottman.com and is republished here with permission from the Gottman Institute. You and your partner are in a tough place. You have a hard time feeling connected and don’t feel understood. You worry if this is the beginning of the end of the relationship. You fantasize about what life might be like starting over, being single, and what dating someone new might be like. Maybe you even started searching for divorce …